Making Time for the Right People
- Milton Alexander
- Sep 24, 2016
- 3 min read
Sometimes we all feel left out; possibly pushed aside or maybe it’s just that we can’t connect with other people, and there are certain roller-coasters we go through before learning how this feeling stops us from understanding how we should take the reactions of other people, against what you do and the effort you put in to making time for them.
Every day I used to think these things, but then not only did I gradually accept that I wouldn’t fit in with a specific group, but I also learned how to be with people on a 1-2-1 bases.
OK how can I explain this on the right level to you (I’m typing as I go)…
The only way I can think possible is if you firstly take Number 1; being a lonely person, now…you can be lonely whether you are the type that’s in a specific group of friends or not…in a previous blog I posted about everyone having two representations, one that they portray to others and one they keep within their selves – this is inevitable and both apply here.
Number 2: another previous blog explains my thoughts on the act of doing things for each other, making people feel good and the effect it has on our lives.
Let’s consider you walk up to someone and start making conversation; they will do one of the three following things – either be associative and go along with you, stand there thinking ‘why is this person talking to me’ or returns with a negative response.
Think first about each of us having our own individual thoughts and ways of thinking.
If you can honestly live every day knowing that you have done your best to please people, make them feel better and do the right thing, and yet they post-interact with you negatively, should you not then have it in your head that it is them that are doing wrong as you are doing nothing but positive things?
Come on…let’s come back to realism here, if people can’t be arsed with you then you shouldn’t be arsed with them; after all, we all have different personalities, some match, some take time to match and some just aren’t compatible.
There have been plenty of times where I have organised events with people and they either haven’t turned up or they let me down at the last minute, and even people that look at me funny when I extend an invitation. At the end of the day you in yourself have to accept that we are all different and you’re not always everyone’s cup of tea, that’s life!
If you find yourself sending texts, making calls and making the effort, however you don't get any return, no return calls, texts or effort in any kind, take it as a hint, a lesson in that you should redirect your focus to people that are doing so.
Continue to give patience and a chance to make someone that’s being negative to see you are a good person and to change their ways of thinking, but only give them so many chances, because in the end if they can’t be pulled to you after a certain amount of effort, sorry to say that, they won’t be, and that’s just how it is.
As long as you continue to have the right principles and respect – you are the one that should be superior, superior to the people that either has too much to learn for your measurement of contribution or the fact that they simply have a negative attitude.
If someone does something for you like I don’t know, lends you cash, gives you a shoulder to cry on or gives you great advice, they are a good person and you should stick with that person! Don’t be naive and just throw that courtesy away, it’s what makes us better human beings.
FINAL THOUGHT
So do it now; keep it real, keep it going and keep it influential. At the end of the day your own actions speak for your own expectations and learning motives.
I hope this blog has been beneficial to you and hopefully made you think in a different way.
Ensure that you keep it positive and most importantly according to the purpose of this blog, make time for the right people that makes time for you.
Craig Milton
