Be Interested in the Lives of Others

Each individual in the world has a persona that is specific to their self, based on their individual past learning's and experiences; it is inevitable that this process of developing ones characteristics in this way defines our motives, the way we think, the way we act…and of course what we end up being interested in, be it music, architecture, movies, or anything else that arouses intrigue.

What we are interested in expands on our personality, our frame of mind and helps us to give things to the world, be it using the conscious or sub-conscious.

Now if you think about what you’re interested in, what do you do to feed that interest? For example I myself am a big lover of the guitar as an instrument, its diversity and empowerment to bestow a wide range of notes and chords with a progression that can become so creative, it positively manipulates both a person’s mind and emotions. Because of this emotion and the appreciation I have for the guitar, I am a YouTube'r of guitar tutorials, a watcher of guitar documentaries, an addict to watching people play, on the screen but more-so live in front of me. When I watch a guitarist and listen to the amazing sounds that can be created from a set of strings, it makes me want to be partially the same in a way, because I know they have the same interest for the guitar as I do.

So this made me think about this linkage which I call, ‘Personality Association‘; earlier I mentioned that we are defined by our individual past leanings and experiences, and this is a prime example of how one takes interest in another’s life. It doesn’t have to be a full scale, in my example it’s a skill I am interested in and therefore a singularity of a person’s ability. We can go full scale, although there are many spectrum's to the scale, you could say as many spectrum's as the human brain considering this way of thought uses the brains thought either in the most diverse of ways or entirely, after all I cannot say that as a fact as I’m not a specialist in brain activity.

Now, let’s take a scenario that’s more realistic to the current way of life.

Social media has become one of the hugest trends in technology since it began. Unfortunately in this day in age, when someone attempts to reconnect with someone after a long time of not doing so, the receiver in most cases has the mind-set of ‘That person hasn't bothered with me for ages so I'm going to not be friends with them anymore' and they find it weird that you messaged them to catch up. It's also like messaging someone on Facebook you haven't seen in years to see how they are doing these days and what they’re doing with their life - 'why are you messaging me, we haven't spoken in years?', after all isn’t that why you messaged them in the first place? I’ve personally never understood why people would be Facebook friends if they’re not actually going to be friends in real life. A lot of us have lives where we don't have a specific group of friends we hang around with all the time, and if the other person 'hasn't bothered' then why doesn’t that person send them a message or a call instead of expecting them to all the time? It's a 2-way street and I will never understand this social dynamic misconception.

So I conclude my blog with this…

We take an interest in people’s lives primarily from curiosity; it is natural as Homo sapiens that we have intrigue in the development of others, because in turn it continues to make us question ourselves and our own abilities and enforces us to think thoughts, develop our minds, make things happen and increase personal development.

FINAL THOUGHT: so go on, do it now, elaborate on your development and thought process, think about what you enjoy most or what intrigues you and take the time to find out more about it, whatever it is. Get on YouTube, do some reading and / or attend some events that will influence your thoughts on your own way of life; do this also by looking into the lives of others, look for stories about what people have achieved and look at your own life and think how you can stop sitting there wishing things were different.

The world is jam-packed full of different people, with different personalities, different interests, characteristic and achievements; so influence your interests and make yourself a better person.

I hope this blog has given you some kind of influence or at least a process of realisation, good luck in everything you do in your life, and make it the best it can be!

Craig Milton

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